Making Space for Clarity

One thing that’s changed drastically about me in the last five years is the way I have learned to accept what is and navigate the circumstances as they are and not as I feel they should be or are supposed to be. Much of the growth I have made has not been because I left a situation entirely, but because I stopped resisting what was and used my energy to work with it.  This looks like many things and changes how I integrate information I receive, and how I choose to react.

I learned all information I receive is neutral until I attach meaning to it. For many years I instantly attached meaning to the information I received. It first took awareness of this habit, and then a lot of practice to curb it. It felt important to learn and worth my efforts so I can have clarity and let the best version of myself do the navigating. As you may have also experienced, once we attach meaning to something, it can be hard to see things any other way, but it is worth the effort to break this habit for ourselves and each other.

I also came to realize I am never in any situation alone, and thus it is important to meet others where they are. We all have access to different information and meeting others where they are means gaining an understanding of what information others in have access to.  Taking the time to do this, instead of making assumptions, is one of the best gifts we can give each other. It is an act of kindness that makes a huge difference.

I learned acceptance of a situation has the potential to look like apathy to others. It makes sense, if we are not attaching meaning and we accept what a situation is, that we are able to be in a situation without any visible reaction. Those around us may mistake our lack of visible reaction as not caring and mislabel our intent. Using our energy for clarity gets easier over time, and others do not always understand it is an option.  This is why it feels important to say, because it is an option for all of us, and changes how we show up in our lives.